Question from Devan: Hello Goddess Aiden. I have been into BDSM for about 5 years and I have had many pro-doms but none that like to be a lifestyle. It’s not like I’m not trying to tribute I have money, but it’s like they only want a check and to move on. Do you have any advice for me to contact a real Dom?

Aiden Answers: My advice to you would be to avoid professionals entirely.  If you want a lifestyle relationship, do what you need to do to find one and make it work!  Lifestyle relationships are much more rewarding than professional ones, but you have to be willing to do the work.  With a pro-domme, you can show up with your list of requests and at a guaranteed time and place they will be lavishly attired and fulfill all of your fantasies.  In real life, however, there is a courting and connection that takes practice, patience, and work, work, work!  If it seems like pro-dommes are transactional, that’s because they are!  If you want the real thing, stop trying to date a pro. I’d love to hear how this goes for you!