Question from Experimental: Hi, I’m happily married and my sex life is good, but I would like to experiment with BDSM.  My wife is a product of the sixties generation, but extremely conservative.  I am sixteen years younger and we have been married for 23 years.  I could easily switch, but she has no inclination either way.  I bought a chastity device and locked myself up and offered myself to her in anyway that would please her. I even attempted to give her a pedicure on Christmas.  I should also mention that she is extremely sensitive.  I would love to lick her pussy all night long , but that is way too intense for her.  I love my wife and will never leave her, but I would also like have some more fun. Any suggestions?

Aiden Answers: Hello experimental! The sexuality of each individual is an ever evolving organism.  This organism changes form, eats, dies and is often reborn.  There are so many factors that affect this. Congratulations on entering a new phase of your sexuality. What you need to realize here is that this phase, your sex, your pleasure belongs to you. That being said, it is your responsibility to be happy.  It is not your wife’s job to make you happy. While couples can enjoy exploring together, solo exploration is no less valid of a sexual expression.  So what I’m trying to say here is let your wife be, enjoy the sex you have with her and MASTURBATE LIKE CRAZY!!!! Go nuts!  Buy toys, take yourself on dates, be you and love you. This process will create such a positive energy that it is bound to rub off on your wife.  She will come around in her own time. I’d love it if you would write me back and check in with me about your toy experiments!